Parenting With Open Eyes

Don N. Bacchus

Description

PARENTING WITH OPEN EYES is written primarily for parents. The intent of this book is to provide knowledge, encourage awareness, and help develop insight regarding the challenging task of raising a child. You do not have to be a perfect parent to raise a good citizen. Be willing to learn. Be warm and nurturing with your child. Instill in him a tremendous capacity to love. The topics contained in this book are many and the coverage is broad. We must protect and nurture our children if we are to become a caring and considerate society.

Sujets

• Developmental
• Human development (biology)
• Psychology
• Child

Informations

• Publié par: Outskirts Press
• Date de parution: 19 avril 2023
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781977263292
• Langue: English

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Parenting With Open Eyes All Rights Reserved. Copyright © 2023 Dr. Don N. Bacchus v3.0
The opinions expressed in this manuscript are solely the opinions of the author and do not represent the opinions or thoughts of the publisher. The author has represented and warranted full ownership and/or legal right to publish all the materials in this book.
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ISBN: 978-1-9772-6329-2
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
Special thanks to my wife, Roseanne, for all her love and support in writing this book. In the text, the use of the pronoun "he" in reference to the child is in no way a reflection of gender bias. It is only used for simplicity and convenience. Many important concepts in this book are repeated for emphasis and reinforcement.
INTRODUCTION
Any person can become a parent. There are no requirements. You do not have to attend any special classes and you do not have to subject yourself to any special evaluations. As a parent you can either help your child to become an independent, productive, loving adult or you can participate in the destruction of his life. To be an effective parent you must possess knowledge and you must develop parenting skills. You must be aware of your child’s functioning and you must be aware of the impact you are having on him. Your child is not here to meet your needs. Do not seek anything in return. It is your job to coach your child into becoming a mature adult. There are essential life skills that he will need to learn. As a parent, dedicate yourself to the mission of developing in your child a tremendous capacity to love.
CONTENTS
Prevention
Major Focus
Self-Improvement
Some Essential Life Skills
Limited Time/Positive Experiences
Normal
A Sense Of Safety
Stimulation
Safety
Imitation
Compliance
Early Indoctrination
Bedtime
Structure
Your Child Is A Child
Your Child’s Development
Independent Thinking
Temperament
Self Acceptance
The Gift Of Conscience
Trauma
Exercise
Stress
Impulse Control
Rigidity
Awareness
Music
Manage Your Anxiety
Goals
Boundaries
Love Is What You Do
Home Education
Frustration
Following A Schedule
Work And Play
Let’s Go Outside
Lovingkindness
Choice
Power Of Intelligence
Willingness To Suffer
Creativity
Get Up And Dance
Violence
Rhythm
Early Specialization
Technology
Motor System Development
Visual Spatial Development
Language Development
Separation From Parents
Process And Outcomes
Construct System/Destruct System
Early Indoctrination
Relaxation
Concentration
Self-Expression
Intuition
Death
Competence
School Shootings
Self-Defense
Your Child’s Certainty
Negative Emotions
Mental Illness
Racism
Truth
Rational Thinking
Adolescence
Peace With Your Past
Body Health/Body Joy
Mystery
Suicide
Problem Solving
Confidence
Always Right
Strengths And Weaknesses
Individualized Approaches
Social Relationships
A Simple Life
Wisdom
Success
Addictions
Self-Evaluation
Repression
Regression
Play
A Large World View
Forgiveness
Take Some Time To Waste Some Time
Good Memories
Bullying
Becoming A Good Student
Toxic Parents
Your Frightened Child
Behavior Management
Sexual Unfolding
Daily Conversations
Emotional Development
The Joys Of Laughter
Sacredness And Reverence
Abstract Ability
Asking For Help
Like A Sponge
Sensory Stimulation
Nutrition For Your Child
Your Gifted Child
Homework
Practice-Practice-Practice
Grade Retention
Your Child’s Authentic Self
Divorce And Your Child
Child Abuse And Neglect
Stories And Poems
Kindness And Sharing
Truth And Honesty
Teaching And Coaching
Learning To Observe
The Biracial Child
The Child Raised In Poverty
The Monster Called Repressed Rage
Think On These Things
The Reserved Child
A Great Thinker
Sibling Rivalry
The Depressed Child
The Non-Verbal Child
Toilet Training Your Child
Improving Your Child’s Sleep
Drug Proofing Your Child
Parenting And Marriage
Imagine And Pretend
Psychiatric Diagnoses
Exceptional Education
The Slow Learner
Auditory Processing Disorder
Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder
Advocating For Your Child
Your Child And Sports
The Importance Of Play
Your Child’s Body Image
Learn To Be Happy
Let Your Baby Grow Up
Raising Your Child’s Intelligence
The Key To Success
Autism Disorder
Test Taking Skills
Power Over You
Doing The Opposite
Towards An Accurate Diagnosis
Knowing The Cause
Coping Skills
The Only Child
Something To Connect To
Positive And Realistic Self-Talk
To Respond And To Initiate
Teach Your Child To Feel
Respect Your Child
Fun With Your Child
Your Adopted Child
Grandparents
Single Parent Families
Blended Families
A Great Father
A Great Mother
Strong And Assertive
Winning And Losing
How To Talk To Your Child
Readiness For The Structure Of School
Living In The Real World
Brain Injury
The Teenage Brain
Hiding Behind A Medical Diagnosis
Great Teachers
Success
Trust
Teach Your Child To Read
Pet Or No Pet
Education Changes Over Time
An Over-Stimulated Child
Conflict With The Law
School Involvement
Academic Achievement
Conduct Disorder/Emotional Impairment
Working Parents
Beliefs And Facts
Your Child’s Interests And Passions
Passionate Visualization
Religion And Your Child
The American Dream
Your Child And Social Media
Your Child And Allergies
Self-Defeating Behaviors
Family With A Handicapped Child
Television And Your Child
Intervention
Stick To The Basics
Count Your Blessings
Unhealthy Homes/Unhealthy Schools
Emotionally Available To Your Child
Raising A Responsible Child
Do Not Try To Save The World
The Power Of Your Unconditional Love
PREVENTION
There are two aspects to prevention. The first concern is preventing a problem from developing. The second issue is preventing a problem from getting worse. Be vigilant and invest in your child’s physical and mental health. Make every effort to prevent your child from experiencing physical accidents and emotional traumas. Evaluate the possible impact of every activity on your child with an eye towards the risks and the benefits. Reduce the stress on your child so that he does not experience crippling anxiety disorder.
MAJOR FOCUS
Your major focus as a parent is to raise a good citizen who is fully capable of independent and productive functioning. There are three targets to keep in mind. The first goal is to prevent your child from going to an early grave. This is about safety and decision making. The second goal is to keep your child from the hell of prison. This is about conscience, and self-regulation. The third goal is to keep your child from being admitted to a psychiatric hospital. This is about managing anxiety, anger, fear, and sadness. With these three goals in mind, you must teach your child essential life skills such as safety, compliance to authority, and social appropriateness. As a parent, you must teach your child to know the difference between right and wrong and help him to develop a conscience. He must learn to obey the laws of society. Your child must be able to control his impulses especially his anger. You must teach your child to relax, and help him develop the inner strength to cope with age-appropriate demands. As a parent, you want your child to grow up to be a happy, creative, and productive person.
SELF-IMPROVEMENT
The one best thing that you can do for your child is to become a competent parent. Work towards self-improvement. Cultivate an open mind and a willingness to learn. There is a lot that we do not know and there is a lot to learn. We do not have all the answers. Read a book on parenting. Talk to your church pastor or maybe the next-door neighbor who is raising children. Work to improve your physical and mental health. Be a good role model. Strive to become a good citizen. Know the difference between right and wrong and cultivate a conscience. Learn to be kind and loving. It is not only about what you know and what you do. It is mostly about who you are. Are you hateful and angry? Are you depressed? Do you function with heightened anxiety? Warning! If you suffer from significant mental illness, you will destroy your child. It is that simple. Your role as a parent is to facilitate your child’s development as an independent, loving, and fully functioning adult.
SOME ESSENTIAL LIFE SKILLS
The acquisition of essential life skills will make your child feel competent and confident. Some essential life skills are walking, talking, feeding himself, toilet training, using a pair of safety scissors, learning to read, basic math skills, basic writing skills, sitting still and completing an assigned task, completing a challenging task, greeting others, having a conversation, self-control, using the telephone, dressing himself, learning to take a shower, following a schedule, cooperation and team work, focus and concentration, making friends, performing household chores, safety knowledge, basic cooking skills, solving a simple problem, coping with his emotions, dealing effectively with frustration, doing laundry, organizational skills, personal healthcare, budgeting, problem solving, managing time, technology skills, making a decision, and learning to drive.
LIMITED TIME/POSITIVE EXPERIENCES
To produce a happy and successful child you must expose him to