Summary of Patricia Evans's Victory Over Verbal Abuse

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 This part of the book addresses how verbal abuse limits your potential and how to recover from it. It covers self-help processes to facilitate recovery, including how to discover and recover your greatest gifts, and how to develop a strong sense of self.
#2 Verbal abuse is the attempt to control you. It is important to understand that you are not what you’ve been told, and you do not deserve any negative behavior or attitude. You have the right to control your own life, and not live in fear.
#3 When you start to see how your abuser’s behavior is irrational and ridiculous, you are on the path to healing. As you come to realize that no one can define your inner world, you are beginning to validate yourself.
#4 Verbal abuse so wholly defines its target that it is like brainwashing. If you are the target of verbal abuse, you may have been told that you are not who you have known yourself to be. You may have begun to feel guilty, and eventually, you may have sought relief from your confusion and feelings of unworthiness by trying harder to please your abuser.

Sujets

• Abuse
• Général

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 28 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669372974
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Patricia Evans's Victory Over Verbal Abuse
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

This part of the book addresses how verbal abuse limits your potential and how to recover from it. It covers self-help processes to facilitate recovery, including how to discover and recover your greatest gifts, and how to develop a strong sense of self.

#2

Verbal abuse is the attempt to control you. It is important to understand that you are not what you’ve been told, and you do not deserve any negative behavior or attitude. You have the right to control your own life, and not live in fear.

#3

When you start to see how your abuser’s behavior is irrational and ridiculous, you are on the path to healing. As you come to realize that no one can define your inner world, you are beginning to validate yourself.

#4

Verbal abuse so wholly defines its target that it is like brainwashing. If you are the target of verbal abuse, you may have been told that you are not who you have known yourself to be. You may have begun to feel guilty, and eventually, you may have sought relief from your confusion and feelings of unworthiness by trying harder to please your abuser.

#5

Verbal abuse is about the erasure of mind, and it ultimately destroys consciousness. It is difficult to recover from, as it takes years to realize that what you are hearing is actually verbal abuse.

#6

If you are with someone you fear because he is out of control, threatens your life, hits, pushes, grabs or shoves you, blocks your escape, falsely imprisones you, or demonstrates violence, don’t try to get your abuser to see what he is doing or explain to him what is bothering you. Instead, call your local domestic violence prevention program or the national domestic violence hotline.

#7

If you have ever felt dread when acting on your own behalf without permission from a significant other, know that the feeling comes from breaking a taboo. Just knowing what the feeling is about and that it doesn’t represent anything that will happen in your future helps to dissolve it.

#8

When you feel powerless, you can help yourself by knowing that there is something you can do. You can plan not to react, but to respond. Verbal abuse is traumatizing, but when you know that there is something you can do, it may be less so.

#9

As you heal from the emotional pain, mental anguish, and physical impact of verbal abuse, you can lead an increasingly satisfying life. As a survivor, you have great potential whatever your age or circumstance.

#10

You may have to have meetings or conversations with your abuser. If you are separated from your abuser, you may have to discuss child-related decisions. Any contact may re-traumatize you, but if you are prepared to protect yourself, you will feel more empowered.