Summary of Kim John Payne & Lisa M. Ross's Simplicity Parenting

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 I worked with James’s parents to help them reduce his exposure to world issues and information. They removed all television sets and computers from the house, and limited his exposure to politics, jobs, and concerns after he went to bed.
#2 When you simplify a child’s world, you prepare the way for positive change and growth. The pressures of too much are so universal that we begin to feel normal oddness. Our instinct to protect our children will be what motivates us to change.
#3 The idea of a one-minute story seemed perfect to Canadian journalist Carl Honoré. He thought about unanswered emails and other things he needed to do, and realized that he had become a speedaholic. What was this saying and doing to his kids.
#4 I had been working with children in Asia for years, and I had noticed that they were jumpy, nervous, and distrustful of new relationships. Many had post-traumatic stress disorder.

Sujets

• Politique
• Général
• Parenting

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 26 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669365594
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Kim John Payne & Lisa M. Ross's Simplicity Parenting
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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

I worked with James’s parents to help them reduce his exposure to world issues and information. They removed all television sets and computers from the house, and limited his exposure to politics, jobs, and concerns after he went to bed.

#2

When you simplify a child’s world, you prepare the way for positive change and growth. The pressures of too much are so universal that we begin to feel normal oddness. Our instinct to protect our children will be what motivates us to change.

#3

The idea of a one-minute story seemed perfect to Canadian journalist Carl Honoré. He thought about unanswered emails and other things he needed to do, and realized that he had become a speedaholic. What was this saying and doing to his kids.

#4

I had been working with children in Asia for years, and I had noticed that they were jumpy, nervous, and distrustful of new relationships. Many had post-traumatic stress disorder.

#5

I was treating children who were overcontrolling in their behavior toward their parents, their environment, and even their play with other children. I realized that these children were suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder, a different kind of war on childhood.

#6

The English children I studied showed signs of a stress reaction called cumulative stress reaction. It is similar to what the American Psychological Association now calls complex post-traumatic stress disorder.

#7

The level of stress described by the term CSR, in its frequency, is very different from the stresses that occur quite regularly and normally in a child’s everyday life. These small stresses drag on a child’s ability to be resilient, and they interfere with concentration, an emotional baseline of calm, and a sense of security that allows for novelty and change.

#8

We have accelerated our society’s assault on childhood, from the amount of time we spend with our children to the technology they are exposed to. We have yet to figure out what purpose childhood serves, or if we can speed it up at all.

#9

We can protect our children’s childhoods by creating a safe environment for them to grow up in. We can protect their well-being by providing them with things they need to thrive, such as well-being and resiliency.

#10

The process of simplification begins with dreams. Your dreams for your family will be your motivation, and they’ll act as your wings throughout the process.

#11

When families come to me for help with their children’s behavioral issues, I often offer them a choice between several months of family therapy sessions, or a one-day visit from me. I spend the day taking in the family’s particular dance of daily activities.

#12

The process of building a family is not a spectator sport. You are in the thick of it, and it is difficult to draw blueprints of something that is constantly changing and growing. Dreams about your family have to be updated as your children grow up, because families need fresh infusions of hope and imagination.

#13

The parents I meet are constantly stressed, and their families are far from ideal. They are constantly fighting, and their children are constantly arguing. They are constantly making do, and their family life is flying by the seat of their pants.

#14

As parents, we should always be looking at our family’s pattern and making improvements where we can. It is important to acknowledge and look at the areas of your family’s life that are well aligned with your best intentions.

#15

Parents and I discuss the four levels of simplification: the environment, rhythm, schedules, and filtering out the adult world. We touch on all of them, and discuss which aspects of the regime feel the most doable.

#16

The American family’s accumulated whole is usually a remarkable sight. With a box of black plastic trash bags at hand, we begin the work of cleaning up the area. We put half of the toys in the bag, and half again. The parents are always anxious to get rid of the toys that their children don’t enjoy.

#17

We took away Marie’s toys, and instead added some new ones. We gathered, washed, and folded an assortment of dress-up clothes that we put in one empty basket. Marie didn’t seem to notice or care that a good three-quarters of her toys and books had been removed.

#18

The process of simplifying a home is not just about eliminating items, but about changing the family’s attitude toward their home and their belongings. By reducing mental and physical clutter, simplification increases a family’s ability to flow together and focus on their dreams.

#19

The work I was doing was not so much healing work as preparatory work. A simplification regime can create space in a family’s habit life and intentions, a vessel for change to occur. That change or growth can take various forms.

#20

The spectrum of responses to stress is normal. Just as stress can push children in one direction, the reverse is also true. When you simplify a child’s life on a number of levels, they will return to those levels.

#21

Overprotecting your children can lead to them becoming over-protected, which creates a lot of tension in your family. Your children’s anxiety about their parents’ anxiety creates more anxiety in the family.

#22