"Summary of Daniel J. Siegel & Mary Hartzell's Parenting from the Inside Out"

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 When we become parents, we bring with us issues from our past that influence the way we parent our children. These issues can easily get triggered in the parent-child relationship, and our responses toward our children can be strong emotional reactions, impulsive behaviors, or distortions in our perceptions.
#2 I had similar experiences as a parent, and found that I dreaded taking my sons to the shoe store because it meant that I would have to take them to the shoe store. I would always end up in emotional conflict about shoes.
#3 Unresolved issues are similar to leftover issues, but they are more extreme and involve a more disorganizing influence on both our internal lives and our interpersonal relationships. They are often the root of unresolved conditions.
#4 I used to feel a strange sensation when my son was an infant and he would be inconsolable in his crying. I would become terrified and impatient, instead of being calm and patient. I thought about the possibility that I had been allowed to cry for long periods in my own infancy, but I couldn’t recall this consciously.

Sujets

• Parenting
• Général

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 24 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669363736
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

Insights on Daniel J. Siegel & Mary Hartzell's Parenting from the Inside Out
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3 Insights from Chapter 4 Insights from Chapter 5 Insights from Chapter 6 Insights from Chapter 7 Insights from Chapter 8 Insights from Chapter 9 Insights from Chapter 10 Insights from Chapter 11
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

When we become parents, we bring with us issues from our past that influence the way we parent our children. These issues can easily get triggered in the parent-child relationship, and our responses toward our children can be strong emotional reactions, impulsive behaviors, or distortions in our perceptions.

#2

I had similar experiences as a parent, and found that I dreaded taking my sons to the shoe store because it meant that I would have to take them to the shoe store. I would always end up in emotional conflict about shoes.

#3

Unresolved issues are similar to leftover issues, but they are more extreme and involve a more disorganizing influence on both our internal lives and our interpersonal relationships. They are often the root of unresolved conditions.

#4

I used to feel a strange sensation when my son was an infant and he would be inconsolable in his crying. I would become terrified and impatient, instead of being calm and patient. I thought about the possibility that I had been allowed to cry for long periods in my own infancy, but I couldn’t recall this consciously.

#5

The memory of working with inconsolably crying children as a pediatric intern was not a flashback, but it did bring up memories of the panic I felt working with those kids. I had never processed that experience in a way that made it available for later retrieval.

#6

The author’s experience as an intern was so intense that it left him with feelings of helplessness and vulnerability. He was able to understand himself and his emotions, and he was able to see how his intolerance for helplessness led to hostile responses towards his son.

#7

The study of memory reveals that the brain can respond to experience by altering the connections among its neurons. These connections constitute the structure of the brain, and they are believed to be a powerful way in which the brain comes to remember experience.

#8

The human brain develops and changes throughout our lives. The hippocampus, which is responsible for the first form of memory, explicit memory, develops around the second birthday. The prefrontal cortex, which is important for autobiographical memory, self-awareness, and response flexibility, develops around the second birthday.

#9

The brain encodes memory, and to resolve an issue, you must bring resolution to it. You must be able to access and understand your emotions, and not be frozen by them. You must be able to adapt to the new role of caring for your children in a consistent and clear manner.

#10

When parents don’t take responsibility for their own unfinished business, they miss an opportunity to become better parents and continue their own development. When we pay attention to our own internal experiences when we are feeling upset by our children’s behavior, we can begin to learn how our actions interfere with the loving relationship we want to have with them.

#11

When your emotions are reactive and heating up, write them down. You may notice certain patterns of interaction with your child that trigger these emotional experiences. Reflect on the implicit nature of your reactions to your child.

#12

An interdisciplinary approach is used to gain knowledge. It involves drawing from multiple fields of study, and it is through these fields that a deeper understanding of the world can be achieved.

#13

The human psyche is a functioning entity that is believed to be a process that emerges in part from the activity of the brain. The brain, an integrated system of the body, has been explored in the exploding new findings of neuroscience.

#14

The mind is a process that involves the flow of energy and information. The flow of information in the mind is the meaning of these words you are reading. The meaning is a powerful aspect of information processing in the mind.

#15

The science of memory is an exciting area of study that has revealed how experience shapes the mind and the brain. The brain is designed to take care of the development of the basic foundations for normal development, but parents are the active sculptors of their children’s brains.

#16

Memory is the way experience shapes neuronal connections so that the present and future patterns of neuronal firing in the brain are altered in particular ways. Implicit memory is available from birth, and is based on emotional, behavioral, and perceptual modalities. Explicit memory utilizes basic implicit-memory encoding mechanisms but in addition processes this information through the integrative region of the brain called the hippocampus.

#17

The way we consolidate our memories may not mature until we are in elementary school. We may create stories through play and dreams, which may be ways we attempt to make sense of our experiences and consolidate this understanding into a picture of ourselves in the world.

#18

The effects of stress on memory can be different from traumatic events. For example, an overwhelming experience might block encoding by inhibiting the hippocampal processing of an input, thus enabling implicit processing but blocking explicit processing.

#19

The new interdisciplinary approach to understanding human development is called consilience. It is the unity of knowledge, and it stems from the fact that all knowledge is connected.
Insights from Chapter 2

#1

We all have individual stories, which are the narratives of our personal life experiences. These stories help us understand ourselves and our relationships with others. Telling your children the story of an experience can help them integrate the events and emotional content of that experience.

#2

When children are able to understand what has happened to them and what may happen to them, their distress is usually greatly reduced. They often benefit from being able to recount their experiences and understand them through the use of props like dolls and puppets.

#3

The way we tell our life stories reveals the way we have come to understand the events of our lives. What comes up for you when you talk about the events of your life. Do you describe your experiences from a distance, or do you emotionally relive them as you tell your story.

#4